The 3 words

Letting in, letting go.

When losing, there is always a percentage of goodbye, but there is also a part of  welcome. Life passes by, it is something only death can stop, otherwise, it won’t forgive us any second of our time. There are goodbyes in life, but there are never badbyes. As painful as letting go might be, it makes space for new coming things, good and bad things. Both necessary for our growth. In the end, it is for our wellness. Losing gives us an infinite set of opportunities to come. Losing opens doors and spaces to let things in, people, feelings, and life experiences that whatever it was that we lost was not letting us learn or have. Letting in is just as important and hard as letting go. Our obsession for maintaining the past keeps us from letting new things in. We don’t welcome, but badcome these new experiences. In my experience, when letting go is just too hard, we can run to the option of letting in. Slowly and less painfully we will notice that whoever we lost, or whatever job, activity, or whatever it is that got away is not as necessary anymore. Letting in is even more important than letting go. Letting in is what gives you strength, and proves that nothing in this life is essential, that things can be replaced, and what we replace (those people, things, feelings, or experiences), can depend on what we decide to let in. When you least expect it, those things that were hard to let go, will be an excess in your life, and will no longer be painful to dispose. The new things, people, feelings, experiences, etc. that you let into your life are more important and meaningful now, and therefore, effortlessly you will let those things go far from your present life. As they walk away from you, a sense of weightlessness will hit you, breaking a smile in your face. As violent as it sounds, that is how this process of change and transformation is; it is a violent action that takes strength and effort in the moments when we are weak and bent. For some reason, both GOODbyes and WELcome imply that they are positive. The words themselves tell us that is is good to say bye and that new things are well to come. The key is how we perceive this process, maybe letting in should be first rather than letting go. We could start seeing goodbyes as good, and welcoming in whatever is coming to our lives. Enjoying the empty space left by whatever that has left and letting in whatever we want that is coming towards our lives.  

By Gabriela Loreto